What Is Going On?

In the wake of the sexual assault allegations, both locally and internationally, I forced myself to sit back and think of the realities that women face on a day to day basis. I had to force myself to accept that the biggest danger that women face in today’s society is men.

Now, before I continue, let us get something clear; this post is not intended to accuse anyone of anything nor is it intended to establish, assume or suggest anyone’s guilt or innocence. Now that we have got that out of the way, let us continue.

Two weeks ago, I logged into Twitter for my daily dose of news, jokes, gossip and trends. I came across a hashtag and the comment that came with that tag was rather unsettling. I cannot recall at this moment what it was, but it made a big enough impact that I decided to try and follow the thread. What I found was rather shocking, sad and left me bewildered. Then I got to thinking, what is it that makes us as men feel entitled to a woman’s body? Why do we feel that it is okay to do as we please when it comes to women?

I recently had a chat with one of my close male friends and he had this to say:

“What do we, as guys, gain from sharing naked pictures of girls? What is the motive? Majority of us men see women as objects and we act blind to that fact. The worst part is that we do not correct one another. We sit and we laugh about it. Now imagine you as a father knowing that your daughter’s pictures are being posted in some WhatsApp group.”

“The sad reality is that females do not do the same. I am yet to see females who have groups of naked guys, talking about chowing the guys. Posting guys small d*cks etc.”

“I would rather we stand against such behaviour and we start building each other.”

I have to say, I agree with him 100%. We, as men, need to start calling each other out and correcting the behaviours of our fellow man. Some behaviours may even seem harmless, but things like guilt tripping someone for not wanting to drink or forcing them to take shots that they do not want to take. Men and women should be able to coexist without the pressure of doing something that either is uncomfortable with in hopes of fitting in or avoiding being “uncool”.

Everyday Killers

You do not have to suffocate the oxygen out of someone’s lungs to kill them.

You just humiliate and beat them down, leave them laying on the floor weeping.

Inconsolable, incoherent, shaking & screaming as if they were an infant

This is the cold reality of this world of sin that we fight every day to stay alive in

We perpetuate improper and animalistic behaviours that could ruin another,

Life not the same as before, cannot sleep looking for a rock to crawl under.

Turn to the elders for advice, but all they say “bekezela mntanam”

You look in their eyes, they sympathise, but they do not know what you put up with

They do not understand that after the savage beating with the coat hanger, he is the one,

The one that wipes the blood out of your eye and justifies his heinous crime.

He is the one that runs you a warm bath and takes care of you, telling you that it will get better.

Because you have nowhere else to go you believe him and it just never gets better.

No one understands, no one knows that you live with a killer, a spiritual assassin

All of this said, this post was supposed to be about strength, unity, healing and a story of a phoenix rising from the ashes. I have witnessed such a rise. Amidst the pain, the suffering, the hurt, the betrayal and the abuse, this woman has risen through it all and decided to use her experiences to try and help others cope. This is her story:



Stop The Killing

I have something that I would like to get off my chest. This particular topic has been bugging me for a while now, so here goes….

To the Police (the few corrupt ones)

I understand that your job is stressful and it requires a lot of mental strength to execute effectively and still know that you may one day not return to your family. I sympathise, but to tell the honest truth that badge, uniform, gun and authority that you enjoy is not to be abused.

The community that you have vowed to protect and serve deserves exactly that, protection and service. You take that oath knowing that there are people out there that see you as a guardian, a friend and a hero. You are a role model to many and those many people want to do what you do because there is supposed to be honour that comes with that badge, you are the face of courage, you are the last line of defence.

So let me say this … We are NOT your cash cows, we are NOT your punching bags and we are NOT here for your target practice. We are in fact each other’s responsibility and if we respect one another then we can protect one another. Too many good men and women die in the line of duty, but all we here from some people is “F*ck the police!!”, “He/ She was probably corrupt, why were they there all alone?”

When it is time for the community to help with bringing the criminals responsible to justice, the community often does nothing because YOU have tainted that badge, YOU have dishonoured your oath and in fact your hands are dripping with the blood of the innocent and the tears of the orphaned.


SOURCE: http://www.nydailynews.com/opinion/harry-siegel-lonesome-death-eric-garner-article-1.2032281
SOURCE: http://africajournalismtheworld.com/2015/04/15/south-africa-malawians-to-be-evacuated-after-five-africans-killed-in-xenophobic-atracks/
SOURCE: http://www.salon.com/2014/08/18/whites_republicans_less_likely_to_say_that_ferguson_shooting_raises_social_issues/
Source: http://time.com/3111474/rand-paul-ferguson-police/
Source: http://time.com/3111474/rand-paul-ferguson-police/

Tatane Andries Shot at close range by police Ficksburg collapses and dies Pic WillemvanderBergVolksblad_thumb[2]
SOURCE: http://censorbugbear-reports.blogspot.com/2011/04/two-saps-bullets-killed-andries-tatane.html
To the Community

As we all know, there is a fair amount of disdain towards the police service as a whole, I have seen this with my own two eyes. Police get rocks thrown at them, they get shot at and they get killed, these people are not superhuman. They get mistreated at work, they work long hours and are often underpaid so the frustration builds up, I am sure you can relate.

It is not fair that we treat them all the same and I know that it’s difficult to distinguish between the truly committed ones and the corrupt ones, but we have to try. Imagine if it was your father, mother, brother or sister that put their lives on the line daily…. How would you look at law enforcement then?

In South Africa the rate of cop killings is extremely high (recently 5 cops have injured or killed in just 11 days) and I refuse to believe that nobody knows anything about who the killers are and where they can be found. So this means that there is no justice for these brave souls and no rest for their families. We need to get out of the culture of not coming forward with vital information, but also our safety must be guaranteed.

Let’s stop protecting killer scum and then complain that South Africa is going to the dogs. How long will we turn the blind eye before these criminals show up at our door steps wanting what we have worked for so hard? There is no honour amongst thieves.

We are brothers & sisters, so let us look after one another.

SOURCE: http://www.timeslive.co.za/local/2015/03/30/four-policemen-shot-in-n3-hijacking1
SOURCE: https://southafricanews.wordpress.com/tag/saps/


To the Government

To you I say, enough is enough!! Our fathers and mothers CANNOT continue to be slaughtered like this. Slaughtered like animals in an abattoir with nowhere to go. You need to identify this criminal element and crush it at its source… South Africa will NOT become a battleground, this beautiful country will NOT be a warzone and we will NOT be held prisoner in our own homes!! Exterminate this problem and kill the seed before it grows to the point of no return. If not for us, then for our kids and grandchildren.

Do it for Andries Tatane.

Do it for Mido Macia.

To the Criminals

You will not win!!

Throughout history, it has been the inaction of those who could have acted; the indifference of those who should have known better; the silence of the voice of justice when it mattered most; that has made it possible for evil to triumph.

Haile Selassie

Clouds and darkness surround us, yet Heaven is just, and the day of triumph will surely come, when justice and truth will be vindicated.

Mary Todd Lincoln

Inspired by the #MakeItStop campaign

Truth be told, in my opinion, campaigns to stop women abuse should not exist… AT ALL. There should have never been a reason for them to exist. Unfortunately we (men) have let our women down.

How, as human beings, have we gotten to the point where we have to start mass movements, campaigns and protests to stop what should have never started in the first place? The continued verbal, emotional and physical abuse of women is something that should have never taken place.

As a man, it is in your nature to conquer and destroy, attack the competition and always be the best! But to conquer is not to conquer her mind, but her obstacles. To destroy, is not to destroy her body but destroy her fears. To attack is not to attack her, but to attack all those things that would put her safety in danger. To be the best, is not to be better than her, but be her equal and create an environment where YOU are the best partner for her.

Before you strike her, think about the fact that she is someone’s daughter, she is someone’s mother, and she is someone’s role model. How would you, as a man, feel if someone put hands on your daughter, mother, sister, significant other?

Cherish one of the most precious gifts that men have been given and protect her to the ends of the earth.

These are just MY opinions.

“The only thing necessary for the triumph of evil is for good men to do nothing.” – Edmund Burke

To the president

Am I the only one who sees it?
Like having visions in my head while dreaming
More like nightmares that have come to bare
The voice of the people soon we will not hear

Am I the only one who feels this?
Like venom running through Africa’s veins
Taking notes from neighbours on how to remain
Plotting and scheming evading negative publicity
Plans made in the shadows like secret societies
Looking for your next free full meal, yeah
When times got real the scorpion was killed

Tarnishing that which Robert Sobukwe stood for
Rubbishing ideals Steve Biko was slain for
Erasing values that Oliver Tambo sacrificed for
No respect for time Nelson Mandela served
Belittling the struggle of Walter Sisulu

Those letters(ANC) Another National Conspiracy
Changing constitution, what gives you the right?
What would mama Adelaide think & say?
What would mama Albertina react to this?

I refuse to dance to your tune, move to your beat
For my President said “I am an African”
My freedom was fought for and I will enjoy it
So try as you will but Mzansi WILL resist!!

Olwam Magona


So what are your plans for me?
Are you going to beat me down and imprison me?
Will you send hyena’s and vultures to pick at me?
Will you send famine and disease to try and destroy me?

They say I paint such a bad image of you
I sit here and wish most knew the truth
That you feed us a dream of money and power,
Hiding the fact that we’ll never own what’s ours,
You make us push and pull in different directions,
Divide and conquer elevating the tension
We pointing fingers at each other passing blame,
So you think you’re safe because no one knows the game

Continuing the slave trade but now you call it “credit”,
You make it SO attractive that everybody wants a piece of it,
Now you own another life, just gotta figure out how to ruin it

Society, yeah I’ve figured you out, I just hope you get exposed so everybody can know what you’re about.

Olwam Magona

A Ramble

Sometimes I wish I was born to a world of brothers and sisters instead I was born into a world of coons and kaffirs, niggers and niglets. I was born into a world of “pimps” and “ho’s”, a world of separation and division, a world of arrogance and short tempers and no vision.

Sometimes I wish we hugged and kissed, said “I love you” and meant it, and lived in a world of total bliss. Heck, a world where what is mine is yours and what is yours is mine, but all we do is push and shove, cut and stab, shoot to kill, injure and maim, build high walls so it becomes safe to play,society corrupting you with moral decay, “FUCK You move out the way!” Is that anyway to speak to your brothers and sisters? The definition of “elders” now means “victim”, “easy target”, gotta be honest I despise S.O.C.I.E.T.Y.

Sometimes I wish, Yeah that’s all it is nothing but hopes and dreams and we all know how fickle and fragile those can be.
So everyday I wake up and I make a wish, maybe one day that wish will come true but until then I’ll live in a world of H.A.T.E.

Olwam Magona